How long does it take to ignite a person?
First, I would like to propose a few questions.
- How long do you think it would take to develop someone mentally and intellectually?
- Is personality innate or a product of the environment?
- And finally, this is an interesting one: In China’s competitive marriage scene, between a man who is highly educated and making a good living, and someone who only has a high school diploma but was born rich; who do you think would stand a better chance of getting picked by the opposite sex?
In 1997, as Hong Kong was handed back to China, a large number of Hong Kong residents left their hometown for Toronto.
They were far less well-off back then. They worked hard hoping for a better future. However, while they retain their deeply rooted connection with their culture and tradition, their children are more integrated into Canadian society, this further weakens the family bond which is already crippled by the generation gap.
When parents bury themselves with work thinking they are doing their best providing for their children, they unintentionally neglect their children emotionally. Distance between parents and child increases as tension rises, but at the end of the day, we can’t choose our family. The question is who is going to take the initiative to reconcile the relationship?
Monticle was founded with the hope to help parents and children find a common voice, understand each other’s thoughts and feeling. We are a bridge, bridging the generation gap.
China today is a rapidly developing country, we are capable of launching rockets to the moon and beyond. With thousands of years of history, it is undisputable that the Chinese civilisation possesses an immense accumulation of ancient wisdom. However, it also means that Confucianism is still deeply rooted in the Chinese mind, where modesty is held as one of the most honourable virtue. This unfortunately often leads people to undermine and understate their own capability and competence. For example, during an interview, when asked the question: “Can you handle the new position?”, most Chinese people will modestly say “I’m not sure but I will try my best”, meanwhile, others will answer with much more confidence: “Certainly!”. As an employer, it is understandable that they would go for a more confident candidate, even if both possess the same credentials.
We have all heard the story of “Kong Rong giving up pears”, but is there such a thing as too much modesty? There are 1.4 billion people in China, in this highly competitive market, we are put into a race since day 1 in kindergarten. Constantly improving and fighting seems to be the only way to get ahead.
Imagine if one day you and your friend both apply for the same job, are you kind enough to be willing to give up your dream for his?
Monticle was founded with the hope to help young people realise their true potential, shape their confidence, in order to make the right decision when faced with difficult problems including ethics and risks. We are a bridge to spiritual wealth.